Tips For Dealing With A Difficult Co-Worker Before You Explode

Tips For Dealing With A Difficult Co-Worker Before You Explode

Is someone at your job making you miserable? Do you feel depressed or drained by end of your work day? If you have a co-worker who is driving you crazy, you may start to hate going to work. If you spend the majority of your day at work, this is a big deal. I’ve seen many people suffer because of a co-worker. Before you start looking for a new job, there are some things you can try that may help you deal with this person.

1. Get Support. If you are having a hard time with your co-worker, it is likely that other people in your office are too. Talk to someone you’re friendly with. It helps to have support. Perhaps you and your supportive co-worker (or friend) can find a way to laugh about the things this person does. Humor makes everything easier. A lot easier.
2. Communicate. This experience is, in part, a relational issue. It is a chance to work on your relational skills. Speak to this person directly. Tell the person what he or she is doing that is distracting you. Ask the person to do it in a different way, or not at all. Telling the person what you need doesn’t make you mean or selfish.  Learn how to hash things out without burning bridges. If your co-worker dislikes you for telling him or her what you need, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have spoken up.
3. Talk To Your Boss. You can ask your boss for what you need to improve your performance at work. He or she may not be willing to make changes for you if you’re just annoyed by someone because they chew too loudly, but your boss may be willing to move your desk if you express that doing so would improve your ability to do top notch work.  Your boss is there to insure the business runs at it’s best. You’re not tattling on your co-worker or getting anyone in trouble. You’re communicating about yourself and your needs. Make sure you show up with ideas for what might help you, so you can ask your boss to make those things happen.

Dealing with difficult people, or those you perceive as difficult, is something you will have to deal with throughout your life. It’s good to know that you may not have to disrupt your life, or spend your work days feeling miserable. You can talk about it. You can ask for what you need. You are never powerless as long as you are willing to speak up for yourself. Power is not about winning. It is about stating your claims for the sake of yourself.

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