Couples often come to therapy in a state of disconnection and pain. They aren’t sure how to reconnect, forgive each other, understand each other, and feel understood by the other person. In therapy, couples begin to turn toward each other; they start taking steps that promote closeness instead of continuing to move further apart. Over time, they build a relationship that feels safe, and in which they feel accepted, seen, heard, and loved.
In therapy, couples learn new communication skills, new language, and a new way of being together. People gain a better understanding of themselves as individuals, and of themselves in their relationships. Both partners learn to take ownership of their part in maintaining the current relational system which is not working for them. Then, both partners learn how to participate in the relationship differently, so the system begins to change, and the relationship becomes one that feels healthy and rewarding.
Both my relational training and my training in sex therapy give me unique, precious skills, that I use to help couples heal from past wounds, and find their way back to each other. Couples therapy is an opportunity for couples to strengthen their connection, and to create a firm relational foundation that can withstand the ups and downs of life.